A Facebook friend shared this blog post today, and this is a largely preaching-to-the-choir situation here, but I thought it was an interesting one.
Here is what I commented there:
I agree with your bigger, grander points, absolutely. Without question. And while I am not perfect in this, I do strive to live a life in which I accept people as they come (though it is harder with mean people. I mean, right?).Belated Day 26 of my month of gratitude: I am thankful to have supportive, loving people in my life, and I am thankful for the ones who can handle it. I am also thankful for those who can't quite handle it, but try. And I am very thankful for those who went before me, both out queers and loving non-queers, who prepped the world to love me a little more easily.
That said, I'm more worried about your friend than about your bigger point, because I know how deeply that hurts. "Jacob," if you're reading: I'm queer, and Christian, and I have found supportive, loving people in my life, in places I wouldn't have imagined. I'm sorry people have abandoned you (as some have abandoned me). Those people suck. You deserve better, and I hope you find better. If you friended me on Facebook, I'd keep you.
P.S.: The discussion in the comments on that post has gotten largely bogged down in "IS IT A CHOICE?!" Here, in case you are wondering, are the basic arguments in that conversation, always:
- It's a choice and you are damned to hell for it.
- It is not a choice; who would choose such a miserable life?!
- It is not a choice, just like you didn't choose to be straight!!
- Love the sinner, hate the sin.
- If it is a choice, someone else will be deciding about the whole hell thing; back off.
- I would. I'm not all that miserable. If it's a choice, I would totally choose it; this life has given me far more blessings than misery.
- People totally choose to be straight. See: Every creepy closet case politician.
- You don't have to know whether it's a sin. You don't need this line anymore. You can just love everyone.
- And a bonus: I suspect that orientation is more of a choice for some than for others, and either way, I think it's not a great basis for denying people their civil rights. "Choice" is a red herring.